They called me FAT!

So in the space of 24 hours two professionals suggested that i lose weight 🙁 I’ve got a mild prolapse and the extra weight is adding pressure to my pelvic floor. Meh! It is thought that one in two women have some sort of prolapse. It’s much more common post menopause because of the changing hormones. (if you think this may be you please don’t waste time getting it looked into) My womens health physio suggested that i lose the visceral fat I’ve got around my belly and my internal organs….. Then my GP asked me how much weight i’ve put on since my early menopause…. They didn’t call me fat but that’s how my brain interpreted it lol i put on around 2 stone four years ago and I ‘had’ found some peace with my curvier shape. What with that and my ongoing digestive issues which cause pain and bloating that resembles being five months pregnant I was feeling a little dejected 🙁 So last week I embarked on playing with a new eating plan mainly to focus on my digestion which i was hoping would address the extra weight. I duly logged my foods and symptoms. Looked at new recipes. Joined the Facebook group. Became a little obsessed. ……and then wanted to eat ALL THE FOOD……my cravings returned….my old ‘disordered food’ obsessions were triggered and I was in full on DIET MODE. ARGH!!! Noooooooo. I felt deprived, miserable and a failure as I was eating foods not on the plan. So yesterday I paused, stepped back and looked at the bigger picture. What was really going on?...

My top tip for an easier menopause

Good Morning 🙂 For the last 30 days I committed to ME, to do what I need to do to feel GREAT and enjoy my short time (not too short i hope!) on this planet of ours. I’m nearly 45 and have decided I want to feel happy, fit and healthy as I head towards the second stage of my life.I want to have a thriving, successful business and earn money so i can have freedom. To do that I need to tweak my days. 30 days ago I started with four easy things to add into my life: 1. 15 minutes meditation 2. 30 Minute walk 3. watch/listen to something funny 4. drink a green smoothie/juice/soup I committed to myself and to make it work I added in flexibility so I am always winning. I had to work through the resistance and excuses. Looking back over the last 30 days makes me really proud of myself. Doing what I said I would do is FANTASTIC for your self-esteem 🙂 In fact it’s given me so much of BOOST that I have tackled tasks that I have been putting off for ages. To make sure that I continue with my new rituals and so I can add in a few more I have being doing this one simple thing…… ==> Getting up earlier<== Now the mornings are lighter it’s much easier to wake earlier so I ave been slowly winding back my wake up time. My aim is to get back to 5.30am. Having that uninterrupted hour to myself has been a game changer for my mood and productivity....
What is a hot flush/night sweat and what can you do about it?

What is a hot flush/night sweat and what can you do about it?

What is a hot flush? One of the most common symptoms of the peri-menopause is night sweats and hot flushes. “a sudden feeling of feverish heat, typically as a symptom of the menopause” UP TO 79% OF WOMEN EXPERIENCE HOT FLUSHES The Hypo what? Although the root cause is not clear, research shows that they are to do with the hypothalamus which amongst other things regulates your body temperature. During the menopause, oestrogen levels slowly drop. Although not fully understood, scientists think that this drop in oestrogen causes a hiccup in the way the hypothalamus senses body temperature, making it think that you are too hot. This causes a response designed to cool down the body (your body is amazing and clever!) . More blood rishes to the skin (one of the causes of hot flushes and reddening of the skin) and sweat glands start working (the menopausal sweat). Adrenal Glands Another thing that can cause the dreaded night sweats (i remember them well!) is adrenal fatigue. Simply put this is when the adrenal glands have been worked to the point of exhaustion by prolonged chronic stress, illness or acute stress. In the worst case scenario the adrenals barely function. this = burnout 🙁 It’s also important to look after your adrenals glands as they continue to produce progesterone post menopause. During your fertile years your ovaries are the main source of oestrogen and progesterone. When your menstrual cycle ends the ovaries stop producing these hormones. Your adrenal glands continue to secrete a small amount of progesterone. However your adrenal glands prioritise your survival hormones (often called your flight, fight...

Ugh…how to recover from that post Bank Holiday Feeling

So today I’m not feeling that great 🙂 I didn’t want to write this blog/email/talk to anyone… I’m feeling a little like Eeyore… The reason I am writing to you is I KNOW you feel like this too sometimes too. My last blog/email was all positive and skippy……I knew it would pass lol.. because that’s the way life rolls sometimes right? and that’s ok because I know ‘this too shall pass’ I also know WHY I’m feeling a little ‘Meh‘ It’s because I’ve been eating too much crap and drinking too much caffeine! I don’t want it to be that but i know it is….damn it!   I had a lovely Bank Holiday weekend camping. The weather was SUNNY 🙂 I took my brown rice and brocolli, seriously I did! I had it on the first day then it was game over after the first camp BBQ! You see I know how food affects my mood….but sometimes I still eat crap to test out my theory 😉 So this weekend my body saw more caffeiene, sugar and gluten than it’s seen for a while. and it’s not happy! It’s far from happy! I think it’s actually disowned me. Can your own body ignore you lol? Poor sleep, bloated belly, low mood and general CBA (can’t be arsed).   Now the ‘old me’ would’ve beaten myself up, told myself I was rubbish, useless etc etc. All that would do was make me want to eat more crappy foods and so on and on… So today I said STOP….what is the one thing I can do to get back to feeling...

What happened when I stopped eating “Clean” – By Mel Collie

So many diets, so many statistics showing us that obesity is an epidemic, an overburdening NHS with no money and out of date health advice leaves us confused, unsure about what to eat, when, calorie counting, colour counting, weighing, guilt..this confusion leads to overwhelm and overeating, thats why I stopped eating “clean”…sounds like a crazy thing to do when theres an obesity epidemic, but I think that the trend of eating clean/paleo also has its issues that no ones talking about. It can be totally the wrong thing if you are anorexic or have eating disorders as its another way of controlling food. What is eating clean? Eating clean means no sugar and a whole lot of fresh food thats not processed. Obesity hit the headlines again today about the fact that fat doesn’t make you fat.. Its something that us health and wellness instructors have known a while Its important to eat fat, avocados are actually good for you, as are nuts and seeds and butter. Whole milk is better than semi or skimmed milk. If its low fat its not healthy for you, its full of chemicals that your Liver doesn’t know how to break down and use. Veg and healthy body movement makes a big step towards a healthy future for your body, which means less burden on the NHS and on your heart. Flora is rubbish..its not good for you..butter is, its a healthy fat as is coconut oil. However…as good as you are at eating well you will have days when you don’t…and want to eat sugar. And thats ok! Its ok to eat...
Half of women ashamed to talk to doctors about the menopause

Half of women ashamed to talk to doctors about the menopause

 Many say they feel the menopause is something they just have to ‘put up with’ The Daily Mail By Ben Spencer 19 May 2016 More than two in five women said symptoms were worse than expected Over a third confessed they felt they just had to put up with menopause Doctors warned women are missing out on advice on easing symptoms Others said there is little awareness about treatment and support options Half of women going through the menopause suffer in silence and avoid talking to a doctor because of the stigma surrounding the change, a report warns. More than two in five said in a survey that symptoms of the menopause had been worse than they had expected. Yet half had not consulted a doctor – more than a third of whom said they felt the menopause was something they just had to ‘put up with’. Doctors last night warned that women are missing out on advice about lifestyle changes that could ease their symptoms. Others said that there is still very little awareness among women of the treatment options and support available because of long-lasting misconceptions. The menopause usually strikes women in their late 40s or early 50s and is triggered as the body starts producing less of the hormone oestrogen. The report, to be presented at the British Menopause Society’s annual conference today, reveals that the average woman suffers seven symptoms, including hot flushes, night sweats, insomnia and mood swings. Around 1.9million women are thought to be going through the menopause at any one time in Britain. Some 80 per cent experience symptoms, which usually last...

NICE guidelines radio interviews with Tanith

  BBC Sussex – Breakfast show http://www.mrsmenopause.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Menopause-BBC-Sussex.mp4     BBC Wales – Good Morning Wales- menopause piece starts at  2:11:00 http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b06nxn3q  – – –  – – – Here is the link to BBC 5 live The menopause piece is at 2:38:00 http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b06nn5ds#play  – – –   Here is a link to the menopause guidelines https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng23/informationforpublic – –...
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Founder, Mrs Menopause
Your forties are a time of change, I’m sure I read once that’s when the fun starts. The body changes and you cannot stop it. I want to help you accept it and embrace it…..cellulite, flabby bits and all!

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