So in the space of 24 hours two professionals suggested that i lose weight 🙁
I’ve got a mild prolapse and the extra weight is adding pressure to my pelvic floor.
It is thought that one in two women have some sort of prolapse. It’s much more common post menopause because of the changing hormones. (if you think this may be you please don’t waste time getting it looked into)
My womens health physio suggested that i lose the visceral fat I’ve got around my belly and my internal organs…..
Then my GP asked me how much weight i’ve put on since my early menopause….
They didn’t call me fat but that’s how my brain interpreted it lol
i put on around 2 stone four years ago and I ‘had’ found some peace with my curvier shape.
What with that and my ongoing digestive issues which cause pain and bloating that resembles being five months pregnant I was feeling a little dejected 🙁
So last week I embarked on playing with a new eating plan mainly to focus on my digestion which i was hoping would address the extra weight.
I duly logged my foods and symptoms.
Looked at new recipes.
Joined the Facebook group.
Became a little obsessed.
……and then wanted to eat ALL THE FOOD……my cravings returned….my old ‘disordered food’ obsessions were triggered and I was in full on DIET MODE.
I felt deprived, miserable and a failure as I was eating foods not on the plan.
So yesterday I paused, stepped back and looked at the bigger picture.
What was really going on? What was the deeper story here? Why did I really want to lose weight?
I am worried about what people think of me 🙁 Oh hello my old friend self-obsession 😉
I wasn’t loving and accepting who I am and how I look.
I have two events coming up that I have perceived as a threat as I have told myself I should look a certain way. One event is in-front of a new audience as the ‘menopause fitness expert’ and the other I’m in-front of my peers.
My brain freaked out and went into full on fight, flight or freeze mode.
My body has been pumping me full of cortisol in response to the perceived threat (the events).
And the ironic thing is one of the ‘negative’ results of high levels of cortisol are belly fat!! Exactly the type of fat that we post menopause ladies hang onto. (there are other reasons too but more about that next week).
So me stressing to lose weight is actually making my body hang on to or even gain more belly fat!
Ha! The reason it does this is so if we need the extra energy its easily accessible. Aren’t our bodies amazing??
Yesterday I stepped away from the ‘diet’ and am refocusing on relaxation and fun!
I’m having two days off to chill out and regroup 🙂 I’m actually going to be in Windsor in a lovely hotel with my husband.
Time to disconnect from the b*llshit and reconnect with myself, my body and my husband.
Lots of love
Good Morning 🙂
For the last 30 days I committed to ME, to do what I need to do to feel GREAT and enjoy my short time (not too short i hope!) on this planet of ours.
I’m nearly 45 and have decided I want to feel happy, fit and healthy as I head towards the second stage of my life.I want to have a thriving, successful business and earn money so i can have freedom. To do that I need to tweak my days.
30 days ago I started with four easy things to add into my life:
1. 15 minutes meditation
2. 30 Minute walk
3. watch/listen to something funny
4. drink a green smoothie/juice/soup
I committed to myself and to make it work I added in flexibility so I am always winning. I had to work through the resistance and excuses. Looking back over the last 30 days makes me really proud of myself. Doing what I said I would do is FANTASTIC for your self-esteem 🙂
In fact it’s given me so much of BOOST that I have tackled tasks that I have been putting off for ages.
To make sure that I continue with my new rituals and so I can add in a few more I have being doing this one simple thing……
==> Getting up earlier<==
Now the mornings are lighter it’s much easier to wake earlier so I ave been slowly winding back my wake up time. My aim is to get back to 5.30am.
Having that uninterrupted hour to myself has been a game changer for my mood and productivity.
It’s MY TIME. I get up. I meditate. I stretch or do a short workout. I prepare a decent breakfast. I do some written self development work.
Then I start my day with the rest of the family in an awesome mood.
I know it’s not rocket science lol and many of you are probably doing it but I want to share my success and hope it may be of use to you.
So if you ‘never have enough time’ to do the things you need to do to help your menopause transition, then maybe it’s time to make time?
Have a great week
So today I’m not feeling that great 🙂
I didn’t want to write this blog/email/talk to anyone…
I’m feeling a little like Eeyore…
The reason I am writing to you is I KNOW you feel like this too sometimes too.
My last blog/email was all positive and skippy……I knew it would pass lol..
because that’s the way life rolls sometimes right?
and that’s ok because I know ‘this too shall pass’
I also know WHY I’m feeling a little ‘Meh‘
It’s because I’ve been eating too much crap and drinking too much caffeine!
I don’t want it to be that but i know it is….damn it!
I had a lovely Bank Holiday weekend camping. The weather was SUNNY 🙂
I took my brown rice and brocolli, seriously I did!
I had it on the first day then it was game over after the first camp BBQ!
You see I know how food affects my mood….but sometimes I still eat crap to test out my theory 😉
So this weekend my body saw more caffeiene, sugar and gluten than it’s seen for a while.
and it’s not happy! It’s far from happy! I think it’s actually disowned me.
Can your own body ignore you lol?
Poor sleep, bloated belly, low mood and general CBA (can’t be arsed).
Now the ‘old me’ would’ve beaten myself up, told myself I was rubbish, useless etc etc.
All that would do was make me want to eat more crappy foods and so on and on…
So today I said STOP….what is the one thing I can do to get back to feeling all zingy again?
Is it deny myself of sugar, caffeine and processed foods? Go cold turkey? make a solmon vow NEVER to eat a biscuit again?
NOPE….hell to the no!
I will just eat a shit load more veggies (that’s nutrition techy speak) and drink lots of water/herbal teas today.
I will bombard my body with the good stuff so I crowd out the temptation of processed food.
In my experience ‘detoxing’ isn’t the way for me. I need a much more nurturing, huggy kind of way 🙂
If I do anything too extreme I can guarantee that I swing back extremely the other way. Like a pendulum.
I’m done with beating myself up and punishing myself for being human.
So if you feel a little meh like me today….don’t worry it will pass.
If you feel a little off course after the long weekend…….IT’S OK 🙂
Be kind to yourself and eat something delicious and nutritious.
Brocolli Love and happy hormones
ps I’m running my 21 Day Hormone Reboot in a few weeks time.
Click on the link above to find out more and grab the ‘early bird’ price thingy.
I’m on a bit of a ‘self-healing’ journey just now. I can’t ignore the fact that I’m just not feeling myself.
I’ve been feeling off for a wee while, I can’t quite put my finger on it.
It all came to a bit of a head when I went through a particularly busy period in my life. I was super busy with work, exams and supporting my busy husband by doing all of the household stuff (yeah I know, smacks forehead with palm). I guess there was only so much I could take and hit a wall. This resulted in low mood, tears, apathy and just plain exhaustion. So i had a few days off and have reduced the load a little but I still don’t feel ‘right’.
I still feel weary, lost my spark, lack interest in life, low self-esteem, low confidence, no creativity……..boy am I fun to be around 😉
I’m not like it all the time, I have little sputters of feeling better and then down I go again.
I knew I had to do something but the thought of change actually felt overwhelming. Gah! writing this makes me feel really vulnerable but there isn’t any point pretending we are OK when we are not.
ONLY I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR GETTING MYSELF WELL
I would be easy for me to blame others or circumstances for how I am feeling but the buck stops with me.
So in my fug I thought ‘what would I say to a client’?
“You’ve been over doing it”
“You need to rest and recover”
“What ONE THING can you change this week to get you feeling better?”
Bingo! The thought of having to chill out, change my diet, do more relaxation, go for a walk etc etc just felt like too much to do!
As painful as it was it was easier to stay where I was and feel sorry for myself!
So I did a bit of self-coaching and I am going back to basics.
What one thing can I change to start myself moving forward to feeling more like well ME? 🙂
The thing I chose was to add more veggies back into my diet. When I’m feeling tired and low my default is starchy carbs and sugars. All of which may temporarily lift my mood but long term they are doing me no favours!
BUT instead of removing them from my diet and feel deprived I am CROWDING them out with more veggies.
I dusted off my juicer and got juicing.
I made a ginger and apple shot.
The second juice had beetroot (from my garden :-)), carrot, pear, lemon, cucumber and celery.
Delicious AND the KIDS LOVED IT!
I also have been adding loads more veggies to my meals.
I am already feeling a little better, blood sugars are more stable and I feel and little more level. (still not right and waiting for blood test results)
So one small action and I’m feeling better and ready for the next small action and I can feel the momentum building.
It really only takes one small action, that small action done consistently will reap rewards.
So is there a small step you can make towards your own healing and recovery?
What do you think would make a difference to you?
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