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2018 was a fairly shitty year for me. I hit the wall (again!) The beginning of the year was average 😉I’d decided to come of HRT at the end of 2017 to see how my mind and body would react. It sure reacted! The wheels slowly fell off. My mental health dived (that’s how the menopause seems to get me). I felt exhausted, depressed and full of anxiety (which isnt something I normally experience) It seems even though I am technically eight years post menopause age 46 my body still wants ‘dem hormones! I had a conversation with my great GP and decided to go back on HRT July last year and it definitely ‘took the edge of’ my symptoms. BUT I still wasn’t feeling great, I had an underlying feeling of depression and apathy. I knew I needed help! I reached out to a coach who has helped me in the past. We talked about my options and how she could support me back to ‘me’. It was a huge investment, the most amount of money I have ever spent on myself…. but deep down I knew I had to do something radically different to get me back on track. We started the deep work, it was tough, painful and I learnt a lot about myself that was uncomforatble. But I felt so loved and supported by my coach that it felt do-able. I wanted to give up! My brain wanted me to stay stuck in the uncomfortable comfort of depression. I had to fight! Then in August my seventeen year old son was falsely accused of some...

Pause. Be still Just for a minute Find some space Just for a moment stop resisting, fighting, yearning for what was… The ‘change’, the menopause transition, the terrifying steps towards your ‘autumn years’ cannot be slowed down or stopped. Yes you can fight it! And you do.. As your body sends you messages that you are unwilling to listen to, you push harder, do more, ignore the signs, mask the messages, quieten your inner voice. Yes you can take the supplements, change your diet, exercise more, take HRT, try the herbs suggested by your neighbour, read the books, watch the videos…. Nothing wrong with that….but are you just trying to fix yourself because you feel broken? I know you are desperate to feel better. I’ve been  there too The emotional rollercoaster, the anxiety, depression, the aches and pains, the greying hairs, looser skin, tighter jeans and laughter lines.  You feel untethered, lost and confused. Who am I?  So you read more, listen more….you just want to feel better, to feel like you used to. You hate menopause! You feel your body is failing you. It’s just not fair damn it!  You want someone, something to fix you. But sister you can only heal yourself. But you’re too tired, exhausted, wrung out….you can barely function let alone heal yourself right? Pause Listen She is whispering to you. Who is she? The inner you, your wisdom, your soul, your essence, your intuition. You feel stuck, you feel fear! The voice is terrifying, what she wants feels daunting and impossibly selfish. How can you possibly want more for yourself? To grow, evolve, blossom...
Me & My Menopausal Vagina

Me & My Menopausal Vagina

I’ve read MANY books on menopause. Some are great and some not so much… I run a support group called Women’s Wisdom on Facebook which you are more than welcome to join by clicking here. Jane Lewes, who is in this group, approached me to ask if she could talk about the support group she runs for women experiencing vaginal atrophy. You can find a link to that group here. Of course, I agreed because it’s not my area of expertise and I love to share resources to help my community. Jane is doing AMAZING work at bringing the VA conversation out into the open. For some reason, women get squeamish talking about vaginas. Like menopause its another taboo. We all have one and I think we should all get to know it better. Do you know what your’s look like? Anyway, not only is Jane doing great work with her support group she has written an excellent book all about her journey. I have to say I’m a little envious of the book as it’s written in just the way I would like to write a book. She is honest, open and vulnerable about sharing EVERYTHING about the awful journey she has had with VA. BUT she does it in a way that is easy to read and full of empathy and humour. She has written the book so that you feel you are having a conversation with her. I’ve learned much more about VA and all the different ways it can devastate a woman’s life. I’m lucky enough not to have suffered from VA during the menopause but I have experienced the...
Keeping Your Cool In Bed

Keeping Your Cool In Bed

I am often approached by companies asking me to review products on my blog. I turn the majority down as I will only review something that is a ‘good fit’ with me and my philosophies around women’s health. A couple of weeks ago I was asked if I would review DermaTherapy bedding. Now, this got my attention because I LOVE good quality bedding AND I know how vital getting good quality sleep is for us. I am blessed because I usually get a solid eight hours a night. My sleep quality and quantity is non-negotiable! I’ve learned the hard way that sacrificing my sleep means my mood is lowered, my energy is crap, I crave high energy foods and I generally feel ‘meh’. Night Sweats and Night-time munchies This wasn’t the case when I was going through the menopause transition and I would wake up drenched in sweat and then start shivering with cold. When the sweats eventually stopped I would have nights where I would be wide awake at 3am and unable to get back to sleep. I finally figured out that if I ate something (usually a small bowl of cereal) I would fall back asleep more easily. This was before I know what I know about nutrition and with hindsight, I realise I had major blood glucose fluctuations and this was what was waking me up. How to get a better night’s sleep This means that I have designed through trial and error a ritual that ensures I get the best sleep and feel rested and have allowed my body to repair and recover. In bed by 10pm and do...
World Menopause Day 2018

World Menopause Day 2018

What does World Menopause mean to you? Do we need a world menopause day? Yes and No! Yes, we need more awareness, more deep and honest conversations around mid-life and menopause. No,  we shouldn’t have to have a yearly reminder about a natural part of a women’s life. Is there a pregnancy and puberty day? There probably is…;-) Let’s have these conversations EVERY DAY. By being brave, honest and vulnerable we create connection and community with each other. Let’s learn to listen to each other and SUPPORT each other. Midlife and menopause is a time of change, transition and transformation. Our bodies change, we are ageing whether you like it or not 😉 In the western world, the majority of women have symptoms (around 75%) but remember MANY don’t so don’t assume that menopause is a rubbish experience for all women. In many parts of the world, women have a very different experience of menopause. Some countries don’t even have a word for menopause. I think menopause needs rebranding and a new strapline! Change begins from changing our mindset and being willing to see with new eyes. As our life expectancy lengthens we are the first generations to live well beyond the menopause. Our body just hasn’t evolved and hasn’t got a clue about what it’s supposed to do with the extra 40 years post menopause. So while our bodies catch up let’s look after ourselves and each other. It is possible to thrive as we get older. Set some strong foundations with what you eat and drink, how you move daily, how much connection and fun and laughter you have. I know it’s rubbish...
Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

I’m excited to say that I’ve finally pulled my finger out and put on another talk. The talk is going to be relaxed, informal and informative. I’ll talk a bit about what the hell happens to the female body during the peri-menopause years (the exciting, eventful time before you have your final period!) I’ll throw around some suggestions that you can use to prevent, reduce or even eliminate the negative symptoms. We’ll even talk about the positive side to being a woman in our mid-life and how we can discover a new mindset. During this time you can drink wine/coffee/eat nibbles etc. before we open up the room for discussion and a Q+A type thingy. Anything goes….. it’s time to have a frank and honest discussion (talking is optional, you can just listen ;-)) Save the date Date: Monday 15th October 2018 Time: 8-10pm Venue: Cafe Rouge – Haywards Heath (in the upstairs function room) 33 The Broadway Haywards Heath RH16 3AS Price: £15 How to book tickets: Eventbrite Booking...

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Founder, Mrs Menopause
Your forties are a time of change, I’m sure I read once that’s when the fun starts. The body changes and you cannot stop it. I want to help you accept it and embrace it…..cellulite, flabby bits and all!

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