Are you a perfectionist?
Chasing perfection can often lead to deep satisfaction with our lives. To try and be the best we can is great but to constantly strive to be perfect can cause stress. When do you ever reach perfection? Why do we expect so much out of ourselves? Trying to move away from our perfect selves can help us reduce stress, feel more relaxed and enjoy what we have. We often judge ourselves much more harshly than we would judge others. Times have changed for women, not only are we expected to look after the house and children we must hold a successful career. Times have changed for men too but that is another blog!
There are so many areas in our lives that we can criticise ourselves in. How we look, what we eat, our homes, our jobs, our relationships, parenting skills etc. Too many balls in the air?
How do you know if you are a perfectionist?
- Constantly berating yourself for not being good enough
- You are a people pleaser
- Expecting people and situation to be flawless
- Having perfectionist thoughts, subconsciously expecting yourself to be perfect
- Feeling guilt or shame
- Setting inflexible standards
Being a perfectionist can lead to lower self-esteem as we think that we are not good enough. Thoughts are very powerful and cause physiological effect on thr body. The constant internal negative chatter is very stressful on the body let alone on your mental wellbeing.
How to move away from being a perfectionist.
- Learn to laugh at yourself and don’t take yourself so seriously
- Be grateful for all the things you have
- See mistakes as a learning e
- Find joy in your life
- Lower your expectattions of others
- Be kind to yourself
- Find some calm in your life Yoga, walking , mediatation
Don’t comnpare yourself to others. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors. There will always be someone thinner,fatter, more successful, have a tidier house etc than you
Reward yourself for all of your achievements no matter how small.