Me & My Menopausal Vagina

Me & My Menopausal Vagina

I’ve read MANY books on menopause. Some are great and some not so much…

I run a support group called Women’s Wisdom on Facebook which you are more than welcome to join by clicking here.

Jane Lewes, who is in this group, approached me to ask if she could talk about the support group she runs for women experiencing vaginal atrophy. You can find a link to that group here. Of course, I agreed because it’s not my area of expertise and I love to share resources to help my community.
Jane is doing AMAZING work at bringing the VA conversation out into the open. For some reason, women get squeamish talking about vaginas. Like menopause its another taboo. We all have one and I think we should all get to know it better. Do you know what your’s look like?

Anyway, not only is Jane doing great work with her support group she has written an excellent book all about her journey. I have to say I’m a little envious of the book as it’s written in just the way I would like to write a book.

She is honest, open and vulnerable about sharing EVERYTHING about the awful journey she has had with VA.

BUT she does it in a way that is easy to read and full of empathy and humour. She has written the book so that you feel you are having a conversation with her. I’ve learned much more about VA and all the different ways it can devastate a woman’s life.

I’m lucky enough not to have suffered from VA during the menopause but I have experienced the side effects of vaginal dryness and use vaginal estrogen, lubricants and am on HRT.

Jane’s book has chapters on understanding your vagina, what vaginal atrophy, treatments, sex and more.

If you are having any issues with your menopausal vagina I URGE you to buy this book – it’s a lifesaver!


Here is more information and details where you can purchase the book

One women’s journey of menopause and vaginal atrophy. Written in collaboration with her daughter in a “tongue in cheek “ way to help break the taboos of Vaginal atrophy. This book is informative, serious, tear-jerking and guaranteed to make you laugh. Through this book you”ll learn the hidden secrets of menopause aimed to help you during your own experiences, informing women, men and health professionals of all ages.




Keeping Your Cool In Bed

Keeping Your Cool In Bed

I am often approached by companies asking me to review products on my blog. I turn the majority down as I will only review something that is a ‘good fit’ with me and my philosophies around women’s health.

A couple of weeks ago I was asked if I would review DermaTherapy bedding. Now, this got my attention because I LOVE good quality bedding AND I know how vital getting good quality sleep is for us.

I am blessed because I usually get a solid eight hours a night. My sleep quality and quantity is non-negotiable! I’ve learned the hard way that sacrificing my sleep means my mood is lowered, my energy is crap, I crave high energy foods and I generally feel ‘meh’.

Night Sweats and Night-time munchies
This wasn’t the case when I was going through the menopause transition and I would wake up drenched in sweat and then start shivering with cold. When the sweats eventually stopped I would have nights where I would be wide awake at 3am and unable to get back to sleep. I finally figured out that if I ate something (usually a small bowl of cereal) I would fall back asleep more easily. This was before I know what I know about nutrition and with hindsight, I realise I had major blood glucose fluctuations and this was what was waking me up.

How to get a better night’s sleep

This means that I have designed through trial and error a ritual that ensures I get the best sleep and feel rested and have allowed my body to repair and recover.

  • In bed by 10pm and do a ten-minute heartmath relaxation using my Inner Balance app (more about this in this blog)
  • Reading
  • Asleep by 10.30pm (most nights, allowing for rare nights out and not being able to pull away from a box set)
  • No caffeine after 2pm (this occasionally slips)
  • Calming teas in the afternoon and evening
  • Magnesium citrate in the evening to help relaxation
  • Oral progesterone before bed
  • Cool bedroom (open window and low heating)
  • No wifi/phone on airplane mode
  • Complete darkness
  • Good quality bedding


I LOVE that freshly made bed feeling, so much so that I actually get excited tingles before I hop into a freshly made up bed. Heaven for me is freshly laundered sheets that have been dried outside and still have the lingering aroma of sunshine (and ironed if I’m really keen).

My Mum taught me to always invest in the best quality 100% cotton linen for comfort and durability. I find poly mixes go bobbly after a while and are uncomfortable. For Christmas last year I received a silk pillowcase which is sublime. Cool to the touch, deliciously soft for my skin (stops the face creases ha ha) and stops my hair looking frizzy in the morning.

I wasn’t sure what to expect from the DermaTherapy bedding because it isn’t made from cotton (gasp!) but they sounded great so I was willing to give them a go.

I’m going to be honest when I first felt the material it felt a bit synthetic and thin. I washed the bedding before use and it dried really quickly.

Then it was the sleep test! The sheets felt really cool and a little ‘slidey’ but not uncomfortable. They have a silky feel to them and feel soft. I felt they helped regulate my temperature. I like to sleep with a heavy duvet in the colder months, I find the weight comforting 🙂 Sometimes I get a little hot but not with these sheets. The pillowcases feel soft (not as soft as my silk ones but still pleasant to sleep with).

I will have to wait until next summer to test them on those hot nights! and time will tell to see if they go bobbly!

On a side note, I have given one of the pillowcases to my son to use as he has mild acne. It’s important to change pillowcase regularly for those with spot prone skin. I can’t report any changes to his skin as it’s early days but he said he ‘loves it’ and that’s good feedback from an eighteen-year-old.

The blurb

According to recent statistics, 1 in 3 people in the UK suffers from restless and sleepless nights due to a host of health-related problems, including hot flushes and night sweats. As we spend a third of our lives tucked up in bed, it is increasingly important to ensure that we have the right bedding to aid a restful night’s sleep.

DermaTherapy is a unique therapeutic range of bedding specifically designed to provide relief to those suffering from night sweats and menopausal hot flushes, which can severely affect their quality of sleep. These unique bed linens offer a comfortable way to relieve the discomfort of night sweats and hot flushes by aiding their ability to keep cool and dry at night.

Available in a variety of sizes from cots through to super king size beds, this range of pillowcases, sheets, duvet covers and sleep bags are made using a revolutionary fibre technology, which quickly dissipates heat and moisture away from the skin, evenly distributing it to leave a cleaner, drier and smoother surface, which is soft to the touch.

With fabric as soft as the highest percentile Egyptian cotton and equally luxurious to the touch, the density of the weave in DermaTherapy bedding leaves gaps of less than 100thof a millimetre between the fibres which helps prevent allergens getting trapped in the fabric and protects against bugs and dust mites, which in turn helps to avoid unpleasant allergy related issues. The fabric’s durable, antimicrobial protection also helps maintain freshness, whilst the special ‘soil release’ finish aids in removing oils, creams, blood and other stains.

DermaTherapy bedding offers real hope to those many millions of women, men and children who suffer from hot flushes and night sweats, which in turn affects their sleep and general quality of life. Clinical studies have shown that by simply switching to DermaTherapy bedding, sufferers are able to keep cooler and drier at night, thus alleviating symptoms and aiding a restful night’s sleep.

So, sleep easy with DermaTherapy bedding, the clinically proven and easy solution for a better night’s sleep.

For further information on DermaTherapy please visit www.dermatherapybedding.co.uk


World Menopause Day 2018

World Menopause Day 2018

What does World Menopause mean to you? Do we need a world menopause day?

Yes and No!

Yes, we need more awareness, more deep and honest conversations around mid-life and menopause.

No,  we shouldn’t have to have a yearly reminder about a natural part of a women’s life. Is there a pregnancy and puberty day? There probably is…;-)

Let’s have these conversations EVERY DAY. By being brave, honest and vulnerable we create connection and community with each other. Let’s learn to listen to each other and SUPPORT each other.

Midlife and menopause is a time of change, transition and transformation. Our bodies change, we are ageing whether you like it or not 😉

In the western world, the majority of women have symptoms (around 75%) but remember MANY don’t so don’t assume that menopause is a rubbish experience for all women. In many parts of the world, women have a very different experience of menopause. Some countries don’t even have a word for menopause.

I think menopause needs rebranding and a new strapline! Change begins from changing our mindset and being willing to see with new eyes.

As our life expectancy lengthens we are the first generations to live well beyond the menopause. Our body just hasn’t evolved and hasn’t got a clue about what it’s supposed to do with the extra 40 years post menopause.

So while our bodies catch up let’s look after ourselves and each other. It is possible to thrive as we get older. Set some strong foundations with what you eat and drink, how you move daily, how much connection and fun and laughter you have. I know it’s rubbish when you are feeling awful with hormonal havoc symptoms but it is possible to take tiny baby steps every day to feel better.

Let’s nourish, care and cherish ourselves because we are flipping AWESOME. Let’s celebrate ourselves, each other, being a women and the menopause.

Happy menopause (day) sister! x


What is Perimenopause and Menopause?


Sometimes we need someone who ‘get’s it’ to listen and help us to discover the first step to feeling better.

Just like Nic did.

“Am thrilled to say I’ve finally had my phone consultation with the amazing Tanith! As you may know, I’ve been plucking up the courage to have a call from Tanith…anxious about feeling silly…well what a waste of worrying! She was a-mazing!!!! Really listened, took me seriously and obviously had a wealth of knowledge and experience! Nice to talk to someone who had empathy! She’s given me some starting points, whilst I wait for further hospital appointments! I actually feel, for the first time in ages, that I have a chance to take charge of my menopausal health…I know where to start….so any woman worrying about having a telephone chat with Tanith….there’s simply no need! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💗💗”


Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

I’m excited to say that I’ve finally pulled my finger out and put on another talk.

The talk is going to be relaxed, informal and informative. I’ll talk a bit about what the hell happens to the female body during the peri-menopause years (the exciting, eventful time before you have your final period!)

I’ll throw around some suggestions that you can use to prevent, reduce or even eliminate the negative symptoms.

We’ll even talk about the positive side to being a woman in our mid-life and how we can discover a new mindset.

During this time you can drink wine/coffee/eat nibbles etc. before we open up the room for discussion and a Q+A type thingy.

Anything goes….. it’s time to have a frank and honest discussion (talking is optional, you can just listen ;-))

Save the date

Date: Monday 15th October 2018

Time: 8-10pm

Venue: Cafe Rouge – Haywards Heath (in the upstairs function room)

33 The Broadway

Haywards Heath

RH16 3AS

Price: £15

How to book tickets:

Eventbrite Booking