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Peri-menopause & Anxiety

Peri-menopause & Anxiety

Lowering levels of oestrogen and progesterone in menopause have a direct impact on our brain neurotransmitters which can bring on psychological symptoms. The following information will help you support your brain health.

Protein

Tryptophan is the precursor to serotonin our ‘feel good’ neurotransmitter.
Women dealing with anxiety may benefit from including rich sources of tryptophan, such as eggs, turkey, fish, dairy, tofu, legumes, salmon, nuts, pumpkin and sesame seeds, into their diets. These protein rich foods also help satiety and regulate blood glucose (sugar) levels.
Including at least three serves of oily fish (salmon, sardines, tuna, trout, anchovy, mackerel) a week will help to meet the EFSA (European Food Safety Authority) recommended a daily intake of 250 mg per day of EPA and DHA, plus an additional 100 to 200 mg of DHA. By eating fish (rather than supplements) you will also consume vitamins A, D& B as well as some minerals.
Vegan sources of Omega 3 ALA include flax, pumpkin, and chia seeds walnuts, as well as leafy green vegetables, soya beans, algae

Blood Sugar Balance

If you get the post-lunch energy slump and cravings for simple carbohydrates like crisps, bread, chocolate and caffeine it may be an indicator that your blood glucose (sugar) levels are erratic.
Eating three nutritious low GI meals per day plus a protein-based snack or two may help stabilise your mood and keep blood glucose levels stable. Erratic meal times and skipping meals may trigger overeating and binge-eating which will make the blood sugar rollercoaster continue.

Choosing low glycaemic index (GI) carbohydrates (www.glycemicindex.com) 

Sugary processed foods and drinks are high GI foods. They are quickly absorbed, especially if eaten on an empty stomach, creating glucose spikes and dips that may contribute to symptoms of anxiety as well as affecting sleep and energy. 

While eating sweets and other energy-rich foods may make us feel better in the short term, they definitely do not help us in the long term.

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-blood-sugar-is-connected-to-anxiety-stress

Fat

Healthy fat at each meal will help to fuel daily activities and keep blood glucose levels stable.
Sources of healthy fats include cold pressed olive oil, grass-fed butter, nuts, seeds, fish, avocado, eggs, coconut oil,
Here is a link that explains healthy and unhealthy fats.

Water

Sipping water throughout the day will protect against dehydration and constipation. Even mild dehydration can cause irritability, tiredness and restlessness. 

Even mild dehydration can alter a person’s mood, energy level, and ability to think clearly, according to two studies recently conducted at the University of Connecticut’s Human Performance Laboratory.

https://today.uconn.edu/2012/02/even-mild-dehydration-can-alter-mood/#

Caffeine 

Attention needs to be taken with caffeine and alcohol intake. Tea and coffee contain antioxidants but also contains caffeine, which is a stimulant. Other common caffeine-containing drinks include coffee, cola, soft and energy drinks. 400mg of caffeine is the recommended safe limit for most people. Caffeine increases stress hormones which is associated with an increased risk of anxiety. Approximately the average mug of black tea contains 50mg caffeine and the average cup of instant coffee contains 30 to 90mg (fresh coffee can have much more). Remember that ‘decaf’ tea and coffee can still have <10mg caffeine)

Caffeine has a long half-life of 3–7 hours which means half of the caffeine you drank at 12pm will be in your body 5-7 hours later. Caffeine may contribute to insomnia if consumed in the afternoon or evening. 

Alcohol

Alcohol and mental health have a complicated relationship. Mental health problems can not only result from drinking too much alcohol, they can
also contribute to people drinking too much. It is sometimes used by some to help ‘numb’ emotions, thoughts and feelings. Alcohol has a depressant effect and, if abused, can lead to rapid deterioration in mood.
Alcohol interferes with sleep patterns which can lead to fatigue. Alcohol depresses the central nervous system, and this can make your moods fluctuate.

The body treats alcohol as fat, converting alcohol sugars into fatty acids. Not only is alcohol devoid of proteins, minerals, and vitamins, it actually inhibits the absorption and usage of vital nutrients such as thiamin (vitamin B1), vitamin B12, folic acid, and zinc.

https://wellness.ucsd.edu/studenthealth/resources/health-topics/alcohol-drugs/Pages/alcohol-nutrition-endurance.aspx

Your gut, your second brain

The microbiome-gut-brain axis, is the new(ish) ‘kid on the block’ for improving brain health. Studies show that what you eat will change the composition and metabolic activity of the gut microbiota, with significant health consequences. 

A diet rich in fermentable fibres (prebiotics) such as fruit, vegetables, and whole grains, and fermented foods (probiotics) such as live yoghurt, sauerkraut, kimchi, tempeh and kefir, is believed to have anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects. Eating a varied healthy diet will keep your gut micrbiome happy and healthy.

The brain has a direct effect on the stomach and intestines. For example, the very thought of eating can release the stomach’s juices before food gets there. This connection goes both ways. A troubled intestine can send signals to the brain, just as a troubled brain can send signals to the gut. Therefore, a person’s stomach or intestinal distress can be the cause or the product of anxiety, stress, or depression. That’s because the brain and the gastrointestinal (GI) system are intimately connected.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/the-gut-brain-connection

Vitamins and minerals 

Vitamins and minerals perform a number of essential functions, including assisting essential fatty acids to be incorporated into the brain and helping amino acids convert into neurotransmitters. They play a crucial part in protecting mental health due to their role in the conversion of carbohydrates into glucose, fatty acids into healthy brain cells, and amino acids into neurotransmitters.

Deficiencies in micronutrients have been implicated in a number of mental health problems.

Depression 

Depression is the most common mental health problem in the UK. Talking therapies and self-management approaches such as mindfulness and meditation are popular alternatives or additions to using anti-depressant medication. Interventions that focus on the mind/ body link such as exercise, massage and complementray therapies like acupuncture are also helpful. 

A low dietary intake of folate may be a risk factor for severe depression. This also indicates that nutrition may have a role in the prevention of depression.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15479987

Similar conclusions have been drawn from studies looking at the link between depression and low levels of zinc and vitamins B1, B2 and C, as well as studies looking at how standard treatments have been supplemented with micro- nutrients resulting in greater reduction in symptoms in people with a diagnosis of depression and bipolar disorder.

Neurotransmitters -messengers in the brain

Neurotransmitters are often referred to as the body’s chemical messengers and their functionality is vital for mental health.

SEROTONIN is a key neurotransmitter that is involved in the regulation of sleep, appetite and aggression. 
Serotonin imbalance is a common contributor to mood problems, and pharmacologic agents that alter serotonin levels are among the most commonly used class of drugs prescribed for anxiety and depression.

High stress, insufficient nutrients, fluctuating hormones and the use of stimulant medications or caffeine can all contribute to the depletion of serotonin over time. 
When serotonin is out of range, depression, anxiety, worry, obsessive thoughts and behaviors, carbohydrate cravings, PMS, difficulty with pain control, and sleep cycle disturbances can result.

GABA is the major inhibitory neurotransmitter found in the CNS and, as such, is important for balancing excitatory action of other neurotransmitters.

High levels of GABA may be a result of excitatory overload. These high levels result in a ‘calming’ action that may contribute to sluggish energy, feelings of sedation, and foggy thinking. Low GABA levels are associated with dysregulation of the adrenal stress response. Without the inhibiting function of GABA, impulsive behaviors are often poorly controlled, contributing to a range of anxious and/or reactive symptoms that extend from poor impulse control to seizure disorders. Alcohol as well as benzodiazepine drugs act on GABA receptors and imitate the effects of GABA.

DOPAMINE is largely responsible for regulating the pleasure reward pathway, memory and motor control. Its function creates both inhibitory and excitatory action depending on the dopaminergic receptor it binds to. Memory issues are common with both elevations and depressions in dopamine levels. Caffeine and other stimulants, such as medications for ADD/ADHD, often improve focus by increasing dopamine release, although continual stimulation of this release can deplete dopamine over time.

Common symptoms associated with low dopamine levels include loss of motor control, cravings, compulsions, loss of satisfaction and addictive behaviors including: drug and alcohol use, smoking cigarettes, gambling, and overeating. These actions often result from an unconscious attempt to self-medicate, looking for the satisfaction that is not occurring naturally in the body.

Elevated dopamine levels may contribute to hyperactivity or anxiety and have been observed in patients with schizophrenia. High dopamine may also be related to autism, mood swings, psychosis and attention disorders. L-DOPA is a precursor to dopamine, and is used therapeutically for low dopamine conditions such as Parkinson’s disease. These medications can cause elevations in dopamine.

NOREPINEPHRINE, also called noradrenaline, is an excitatory neurotransmitter produced in the CNS, as well as a stress hormone produced in the adrenal medulla. It prepares the body for action by relaying messages in the sympathetic nervous system as part of the autonomic nervous system’s fight-or-flight response. High levels of norepinephrine are often linked to anxiety, stress, elevated blood pressure, and hyperactivity, whereas low levels are associated with lack of energy, focus, and motivation.

EPINEPHRINE, often better known as adrenaline, is synthesized from norepinephrine in both the CNS and the adrenal medulla. Much like norepinephrine, this excitatory neurotransmitter helps regulate muscle contraction, heart rate, glycogen breakdown, blood pressure and more, and is heavily involved in a stress response. Elevated levels of epinephrine are often associated with hyperactivity, ADHD, anxiety, sleep issues, and low adrenal function. Over time, chronic stress and stimulation can deplete epinephrine stores leading to difficulty concentrating, fatigue, depression, insufficient cortisol production, chronic stress, poor recovery from illness, dizziness and more.
http://nordiclabs.com/

Did you know you can test your neurotransmitter levels? The below test is an example of a test I sometimes use with clients to get a clearer understanding of what is happening in the brain.

If you need more help and support book in a discovery call with Tanith

Below are some ideas how to increase your ‘feel good’ neurotransmitters and reduce your excitatory neurotransmitters which can heighten feelings of anxiety.

Conclusion: As you can see mental health can be supported in many ways. You have the tools to take back control of your brain and get your life back on track.

References:

https://daa.asn.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/NR06_pg014-anxiety-Tania-Matthewson.pdf

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/sites/default/files/food-for-thought-mental-health-nutrition-briefing-march-2017.pdf

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5445139/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2195579

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4963565/

Anxiety in menopause

Anxiety in menopause

I’m hoping it’s becoming more well known that anxiety can be a symptom of menopause.

Susannah Constantine, who shot to fame with the Trinny & Susannah TV show and known more recently for her new career as a writer and author, spoke openly and honestly about her anxiety.

She wrote about it in her monthly column for Femail in the Daily Mail newspaper.

Susannah came to me for diet, fitness and lifestyle advice and support when her anxiety got worse with the menopause.

In her article I shared some tips for women to help them reduce their symptoms which I’ve shared below.

Please do go and read the full article “It’s time for me to confess: my life’s been crippled by anxiety” here.

What helps anxiety? No coffee after lunch and a magnesium soak.

Tanith Lee, aka Mrs Menopause, is a nutritional therapist and fitness trainer who specialises in women’s health in mid-life. These are her top five tips for beating menopause anxiety.

  • Magnesium is known as Mother Nature’s relaxant because of its calming properties for both body and mind. But many women in midlife tend to be magnesium depleted because their busy lives mean they often aren’t eating properly.

This is an easy one to fix by eating more leafy vegetables, nuts and seeds, seafood, dark chocolate and wholegrains. There are also magnesium supplements available, including a spray for the skin.

A good way to reduce anxiety is with an Epsom salts bath or foot bath. This has a doubly calming effect — while you’re absorbing magnesium in the salts through the skin, you’re also reaping the soothing benefits of a warm bath.

  • Many of us love caffeinated drinks as they give a great boost, but they’re also likely to exacerbate feelings of anxiety for several reasons. Caffeine can have a negative impact on good quality sleep, has been known to trigger hot flushes and cause palpitations.

It can also mask tiredness meaning we’re more likely to keep going and put ourselves under pressure when we should be relaxing, which can also lead to anxiety. My advice is to cut out caffeine altogether or vastly reduce your intake.

If you must drink caffeine, stop at lunchtime as one cup of coffee can stay in the system as long as six hours.

Try green tea instead. You’ll get a mild caffeine boost, but it also contains a compound called L-theanine, which has calming properties.

  • Breathing — most of us breathe from high up in the chest, which isn’t optimal for staying calm and in control. On the other hand, breathing properly can reduce feelings of anxiety instantly.

At times when you’re feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope, try ‘square breathing’. Breathe in through the nose for a count of four, hold for a count of four, breath out through the mouth for a count of four and then hold for a count of four. Repeat until you feel calmer.

  • Increasingly, links are being made between gut health and the brain. Some studies have even drawn a link between gut health and anxiety.

But during the peri-menopause many women find their gut works less well and they start suffering from IBS symptoms such as bloating or constipation. One reason is that fluctuating levels of oestrogen can compromise how well the gut is able to move on food.

At the same time, stress and anxiety can also impact on digestion. It’s a circular problem. Pay attention to diet, ensuring it’s rich in a variety of nutritious foods. These should include plenty of fibre such as fruit and vegetables, protein, healthy fats and complex carbohydrates. And it’s worth taking a probiotic supplement.

  • It’s well known that exercise stimulates ‘feel good’ endorphins and I cannot stress enough the benefits of keeping the body moving as a way to combat anxiety.

For a start, while you are exercising it’s impossible to think of anything else so it helps break the cycle of anxiety, and then afterwards you reap the benefits of serotonin, which creates a feeling of wellbeing.

Exercising to the point of getting sweaty is ideal, but even a walk at lunchtime will bring benefits. Exercise can also help with feelings of negative body image — just knowing you are taking action can make you feel better and more positive.

by Tanith Lee 

2018 was a fairly shitty year for me.

I hit the wall (again!)

The beginning of the year was average 😉

I’d decided to come of HRT at the end of 2017 to see how my mind and body would react.

It sure reacted! The wheels slowly fell off.

My mental health dived (that’s how the menopause seems to get me). I felt exhausted, depressed and full of anxiety (which isnt something I normally experience)

It seems even though I am technically eight years post menopause age 46 my body still wants ‘dem hormones!

I had a conversation with my great GP and decided to go back on HRT July last year and it definitely ‘took the edge of’ my symptoms.

BUT

I still wasn’t feeling great, I had an underlying feeling of depression and apathy.

I knew I needed help! I reached out to a coach who has helped me in the past. We talked about my options and how she could support me back to ‘me’.

It was a huge investment, the most amount of money I have ever spent on myself…. but deep down I knew I had to do something radically different to get me back on track.

We started the deep work, it was tough, painful and I learnt a lot about myself that was uncomforatble. But I felt so loved and supported by my coach that it felt do-able.

I wanted to give up! My brain wanted me to stay stuck in the uncomfortable comfort of depression. I had to fight!

Then in August my seventeen year old son was falsely accused of some very serious allegations made by two girls, one of whom was my daughters best friend. Our world was turned upside down (i cant say much more as this is an ongoing police investigation)

I was thrown into full ‘lioness’ mode – don’t mess with my cubs!

Throughout all this I was still doing the deep coaching with my amazing coach. She supported, guided and loved me through those highly stressful months.

As awful as it was/is it has shown me how resilient I am now. I have grown so much over the last six months.

I’ve learnt how to take a radical stand for myself and my self care. I know my drivers and my weak spots. Every.damn.day I show up for myself. I am no longer a victim and expecting someone to save me. Only I can save myself and that feels so powerful.

My addictive behaviours has lessened. I live more mindfully and intentionally.

I’m back bitches! ha ha

This week is the first time in eight months that I feel like I am ready to get back to work – my work of supporting women through the menopause and midlife changes.

I feel like I’m wearing new glasses and see myself and the world in a different way. I’m also wearing new clothes as I pretty easily shed some weight that has been hanging around over the last few years.

You may be reading this while you feel like crap and think ‘well it’s ok for you’…..

I get it, I really do….. when you feel like crap the last thing you want to hear is someone who is positive and happy.

I’m sharing this because I know how bad life can feel sometimes, I’ve been in that deep dark pit of despair when it feels like there is no escape.

I have escaped!

and so can you….. but doing the ‘self-exploration’ I’ve done isn’t for everyone. I had to hit that wall many times before I was ready.

Before I finally said ‘enough is enough’, I am not prepared to exist like this anymore.

I could do all the HRT, supplements, diet, exercise etc but that does not touch my spirit and soul. That was the work I need to do 🙂

The great thing is that I’m creating courses, workshops and one to one experiences to help woman with these changes.

My belief is that the menopause is much more than ‘fixing symptoms’ (yes i know thats part of the story) it’s about connecting to ourselves, our needs, our wants and desires.

Changing my mindset, creating new beliefs and radically taking a stand for myself has changed my life.

Last year I knew 2019 had to be different to 2018 and I knew I had to do something radcially different from the way I was.

I’m so proud of myself for taking the plunge and ‘digging in’ to the work and trusting someone else to guide me.

Exciting 🙂 xx

Pause.

Be still

Just for a minute

Find some space

Just for a moment stop resisting, fighting, yearning for what was…

The ‘change’, the menopause transition, the terrifying steps towards your ‘autumn years’ cannot be slowed down or stopped.

Yes you can fight it! And you do..

As your body sends you messages that you are unwilling to listen to, you push harder, do more, ignore the signs, mask the messages, quieten your inner voice.

Yes you can take the supplements, change your diet, exercise more, take HRT, try the herbs suggested by your neighbour, read the books, watch the videos….

Nothing wrong with that….but are you just trying to fix yourself because you feel broken?

I know you are desperate to feel better. I’ve been  there too

The emotional rollercoaster, the anxiety, depression, the aches and pains, the greying hairs, looser skin, tighter jeans and laughter lines. 

You feel untethered, lost and confused. Who am I? 

So you read more, listen more….you just want to feel better, to feel like you used to.

You hate menopause! You feel your body is failing you. It’s just not fair damn it! 

You want someone, something to fix you. But sister you can only heal yourself.

But you’re too tired, exhausted, wrung out….you can barely function let alone heal yourself right?

Pause

Listen

She is whispering to you. Who is she? The inner you, your wisdom, your soul, your essence, your intuition.

You feel stuck, you feel fear! The voice is terrifying, what she wants feels daunting and impossibly selfish.

How can you possibly want more for yourself? To grow, evolve, blossom and shine.

Who are you to demand more from life? To follow your dreams and be happy.

What will they think? What will theysay? 

You have to be a great mum, husband, sister, wife, lover, daughter first…..then you’ll have time for yourself.

The truth is that you will always come last if you put others first. 

You feel naked, raw and exposed. So, so sensitive.

The illusion is that it’s easier to fight it, ignore it, push against it. Eat and drink those feelings, desires and yearnings away.

Numb your dreams with Netflix and Facebook.

Compare yourself to others so it feels ok to feel stuck. It feels ‘normal’.

Fuck normal!

The minutes, days and years are ticking by….tick tock, tick tock…

You can’t hide from it, it will always be on your shoulder, you can’t stop it but you CAN decide to start listening.

‘The change’, any change feels scary and we hide from it but have you considered that there is FREEDOM the other side?

Pause, just for a minute. 

Listen to your hearts desires because all of the ‘symptoms of menopause’ are just messages. 

Mother nature is giving you a loving nudge, when we ignore the nudge it becomes a kick.

Sometimes we need to experience a breakdown, a rock bottom, the jumping off place before we are willing to open our eyes and see what we need to see.

There is no right or wrong, good or bad way. 

Can it be as simple as making a decision, for don’t we all have choice?

Is today the day you decide that you are unwilling to live the way you are living? To feel the way you are feeling?

Is right now the time you open your eyes and see yourself? Your beautiful, gorgeous, perfectly imperfect self?

If you feel like giving up; try giving up ignoring your needs, giving up being so hard on yourself, giving up giving up on yourself.

The menopause is a transition from one stage of life to another. The hormonal flux will level out, the emotional rollercoaster will slow down, you won’t feel like this forever.

You won’t EVER feel like you did in your twenties, you are growing into someone new.

That’s exciting. Today could be the start of something incredible if you decide it to be

Sister, please don’t give up on yourself. Hang in there because there is so much more to discover.

I’m not giving up on you, I will be here for you until you can be here for yourself

What is menopause and midlife really about?

What is menopause and midlife really about?

Something happens around menopause and mid-life. A shift, a change in perspective, an awakening, a realisation….

Our mind, body, and spirit start to shout.

We’ve ignored this voice for all these years. We’ve been too busy.

Busy with growing family’s and/or careers.  Too busy doing ‘stuff’.

Too busy to listen to that voice, the voice that whispers in the dark “is this it?”

The childlike voice that screams in tantrum ‘it’s not fair, what about me?”

We hit our late 40s and early 50s and we start hitting those bigger birthdays.

As we dance through the decades faster and faster we can see the last curtain call is scarily closer than seems possible.

Our mortality becomes more tangible. We begin to lose friends and family along the way as they transition to another place.

Every loss makes us think “shit! I’m running out of time”. It reminds us of our fragility.

But even the loss of a loved one isn’t enough to take action and to live life more fully. Sure the initial shock makes us listen, question and look briefly at our own existence.

But as time marches on we slip back comfortably into our uncomfortable lives.

It’s not that we have a bad life and sure, we’re grateful for what we have (are we?).

But “what’s next?” our inner self-asks?

 

For me, the blessing of aging, maturing (?) and gaining life experience is that I don’t give so much of a shit (oh I still have doubts and wobbles).

I care less what people think and I’ve come to realise what is important. I’ve learned to sweat less about the small stuff as I gain a new perspective on my life.

 

“what really matters?”

 

At mid-life, in the interval of our show called life we get thrown reminders that life is for

LIVING.

 

All those horrible peri-menopause symptoms we hear about and feel are messages, signs and signals.

In the space between each heart beat we know something isn’t quite right!

 

We are out of balance, adrift, we feel a bit off.

Yes,  HRT and supplements, nutrition, exercise and meditation may help BUT….

There is a deeper yearning. Do you feel it? Hear it? Sense it?

This is YOUR time to shine, to grow, to love but…

FEAR

 

Fear stops us living wholeheartedly.

Fear of change.

Fear of the TRUTH.

 

Are you happy? Are you fulfilled? Are you living the best version of your life?

These questions, or rather the answers to these questions can be terrifying!

 

So we use alcohol, Facebook, food, {insert other addictive behaviors} to numb those callings, YOUR inner voice who is desperate to be heard.

 

And when those addictive behaviors cause more pain than joy we try and stop them by going cold turkey. We stop the very thing that we were using to help ‘fix’ us.

If I change the way I eat, stop smoking, stop drinking battle of wine a day THEN I will be happy and feel better?

Hmmmm…maybe…..for a while , if you believe that BS.

We have to tackle the deeper stuff…..

 

The ‘why’s’.

 

Why are we smoking, drinking, eating, Netflixing (numbing) our way through life?

What are we avoiding?

 

Our deeper calling, that bloody voice that keeps telling you ‘I’m not happy, I’m not fulfilled…… I don’t want a 9-5 job I want to be a self-employed gardener’

 

 

Damn!! That voice, that TRUTHFUL voice is terrifying!

 

It’s easier to turn that bitch down. STFU.

But at mid-life, that bitch gets MAD, she doesn’t like being ignored.

So she’ll make you listen……. Hot flushes, insomnia (nothing like being wide awake at 3am and full of fear to make you listen), night sweats, lower libido, anxiety, depression, fatigue…

 

ALL these symptoms are isolating and will STOP you living your life.

 

So maybe you need to start listening, really listen?

I say yes to healthier habits.

What you eat, how you eat.

Moving more (in a way you enjoy).

Finding some quiet time (and turn down the chattering, mind monkeys)

 

But there is more. You KNOW there is more.

Anyone who is over the age of 40 will tell you how it feels like life speeds up.

Time goes faster (where did the last year go? Is it Christmas again already?)

We are busier and busier than ever (doing what?)….so busy that we don’t acknowledge life, or live life.

 

Really live it.

 

How many times a day do you say “I’m too busy”, “I don’t have enough time”, “I wish I had more time”

Bull shit, I say…..we all have the same 24 hours a day.

It’s how we CHOOSE to use them that counts.

And don’t give me those “yes but’s…..”

‘Yes but’ always precedes an excuse.

 

That’s the truth.

 

So what is mid-life and menopause all about?

 

The more I talk and write about it the more I realise there is another story to be written.

YOUR STORY

Mid-life and menopause is the PERFECT time to assess YOU and the LIFE you are living.

 

It’s the perfect time to grab life by your tired ovaries and decide that tomorrow starts today.

TODAY. NOW. Now is all we have.

Don’t wait for tomorrow to really start living life.towar

It is completely in YOUR POWER to feel happy, fulfilled, healthy and confident as you head towards the ‘second act’ of life.

This ain’t no dress rehearsal.

Change can be big or small. You don’t have to walk away from your old life (unless you want to) you can start the momentum by making a small change.

Time passes anyway; whether you choose to sit in depression, wallow in your ailments and sit on your pity pot OR you DECIDE today that you can start to live, really LIVE, your life in a way that is meaningful for you.

 

One thing I have learned along the way is that we get to choose how we want to be every morning when we first wake up. How do you start your day?

 

 

Every day we can start again and if you having a crap day you can start your day again at any time.

 

Live intentionally, laugh more, don’t take yourself so seriously, do more of the stuff that brings you joy or don’t……it’s up to you.

 

The moment you begin living TRUTHFULLY is when you will begin to find harmony and flow.

 

(be warned though….others may not like your truth)

 

This may not be the blog you want to read, especially if you are experiencing menopause symptoms and not living the life you desire. You just want to feel better right?

 

I’ve been in the depths of depression and anxiety.

I’ve felt lost, hopeless and like a worthless bag of shit.

I’ve felt powerless and unable to make even the smallest decisions.

 

The ‘not enough mantra’ is well rehearsed in my mind.

 

Not young enough

Not good enough

Not rich enough

Not thin enough

 

ENOUGH already!

 

But I have never given up (I have surrendered and let go) but I’ve always sought a solution. I’ve always known deep down that there is more to this short time I have on planet earth.

 

Change for me has always come from being open, honest and truthful.

 

My wish and desire are to get under the layers of menopause and mid-life baggage.

 

Yes, I can and want to help women feel better about themselves and live an amazing life.

 

But that doesn’t just come from a few lifestyle changes (don’t get me wrong these really help and are part of the bigger picture)

 

I want to help women wake up and realise their potential, to refocus their life, to fall in LOVE with life again.

 

To love themselves (cliché I know). To shine in the world.

 

BUT I realise not every woman is ready for that. Not yet, not ever…and that’s ok.

 

Our mindset, thoughts and overthinking stand in our way. For a long-lasting change we need to work on what goes on between our ears. Get a little PMA (positive mental attitude) and acceptance around this stage in life.

 

Begin by questioning your beliefs and thoughts. Those familiar scripts that we play automatically.

 

Do you know what you want?

 

We can all list what we don’t want. But what do you WANT, DESIRE and WISH for?

 

Start to ask yourself those questions and watch the magic happen.

 

Big Love

 

T xx

 

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My second Menopause

I know, I know….one menopause is enough right?

The last six months have been a massive struggle for me. It felt like my world came crashing down.

Depression

Anxiety

Zero energy

Apathetic

Sluggish and lethargic

On some days it was a struggle to get out of bed.

I’d given up…..I quit! Life seemed bleak. I felt so lonely.

I had brief glimpses of feeling better only to feel a day later like I was being sucked into a black hole.

I didn’t want to speak to anyone, see my friends or connect with the others.

Gah!

But this felt familiar…..I knew these signs……I had felt like this and worse 8 years ago when I was going through an early menopause.

I knew my hormones were talking to me!

I also had other ‘stuff’ going on like my ongoing gut issues. I know my gut is fundamental to my overall wellbeing. I knew what I should be doing and what I would recommend to a client with the same gut stuff.

But I the thought of planning and cooking meals was so overwhelming that I didn’t do it. It almost sounds ridiculous to write. Every decision felt too much. I was full of self-doubt and had lost any connection with myself and my intuition.

I was so exhausted that I couldn’t exercise apart from walk the dog. And exercise always makes me feel better. I felt hopeless and lost.

I was a walking bag of excuses…..I felt like I had failed. My inner dialogue as awful. Those mind monkeys weren’t just chattering they were screaming! I felt like I was losing my mind.

In the midst of all this, my fried brain reminded me that I had stopped using HRT nine months earlier.

Oh…….

I thought that being eight years post menopause at the age of 46 I didn’t need hormonal support. I felt a failure somehow…I was Mrs Menopause, a menopause expert, and nutritional therapist and I should be able to do this naturally. What a load of BS my ego was telling me. I am a human being doing the best I can.

My body was telling me loud and clear it needed help. So after a few more weeks wrestling with making a decision, I decided to see my GP.

I saw a new female GP (Dr. Burns) who was amazing. I felt listened to 🙂 We talked about my options and some new types of HRT to try. When I left the surgery I felt like a huge weight had been lifted.

Ah…..

I have been back on HRT since 12th July 2018 (now 6 weeks) and I’m feeling so much better.

I’m on an estrogen gel and oral progesterone at night ( I also have a secret stash of testosterone which I use occasionally). The GP suggested a Mirena coil but it didn’t feel right for me.

HRT is not a magic wand (but it feels like I’ve been sprinkled with fairy dust ;-)) but I feel it’s giving me hormonal support and a window to be able to look after other areas of my health.

This week I did a home yoga work out which my body thanked me for.✔️

I also planned my meals for the week, made a shopping list and went shopping.✔️

I have told the family they are cooking their own evening meals if they don’t want to eat what I’m eating.✔️

I have restarted my morning routine which always helps set the day off to a good start.✔️

I have moved into my new office (finally my own space to retreat into)✔️

And I have had a fluttering of creativity returning (hence why I writing this post)✔️

 

It feels good to be back 🙂  The rest of this year is focused on me and my health. I’ll be sharing my journey, the ups, and downs with my community as I know this helps others.

I know how great I can feel when I am in good health and I want that feeling back.

So my sister, don’t you give up! If you are in a hole there is a way out. It may not be HRT but there are other ways to support your body.

I beg you to put yourself at the top of the list. Your health and well-being are so important. Make a small change today that will benefit your wellbeing. Midlife, menopause or wherever you are is a time to take stock and reconnect to yourself on every level.

Health isn’t just about eating healthier and move more (for sure that plays apart). Your soul and spirit also need love and attention. Our emotions, feelings and our mental wellbeing are all part of the same conversation.

If you need help or someone to listen to you (really listening is what I’m good at) then feel free to jump on a free call with me. My invitation is without obligation, it’s not a ‘sales call’. It’s one woman listening to another and giving some advice if it’s asked for. Speaking and connecting with other woman fills my soul and it’s a gift that I love.

You can book that call here 

Big Love Txx