World Menopause Day 2018

World Menopause Day 2018

What does World Menopause mean to you? Do we need a world menopause day?

Yes and No!

Yes, we need more awareness, more deep and honest conversations around mid-life and menopause.

No,  we shouldn’t have to have a yearly reminder about a natural part of a women’s life. Is there a pregnancy and puberty day? There probably is…;-)

Let’s have these conversations EVERY DAY. By being brave, honest and vulnerable we create connection and community with each other. Let’s learn to listen to each other and SUPPORT each other.

Midlife and menopause is a time of change, transition and transformation. Our bodies change, we are ageing whether you like it or not 😉

In the western world, the majority of women have symptoms (around 75%) but remember MANY don’t so don’t assume that menopause is a rubbish experience for all women. In many parts of the world, women have a very different experience of menopause. Some countries don’t even have a word for menopause.

I think menopause needs rebranding and a new strapline! Change begins from changing our mindset and being willing to see with new eyes.

As our life expectancy lengthens we are the first generations to live well beyond the menopause. Our body just hasn’t evolved and hasn’t got a clue about what it’s supposed to do with the extra 40 years post menopause.

So while our bodies catch up let’s look after ourselves and each other. It is possible to thrive as we get older. Set some strong foundations with what you eat and drink, how you move daily, how much connection and fun and laughter you have. I know it’s rubbish when you are feeling awful with hormonal havoc symptoms but it is possible to take tiny baby steps every day to feel better.

Let’s nourish, care and cherish ourselves because we are flipping AWESOME. Let’s celebrate ourselves, each other, being a women and the menopause.

Happy menopause (day) sister! x


What is Perimenopause and Menopause?


Sometimes we need someone who ‘get’s it’ to listen and help us to discover the first step to feeling better.

Just like Nic did.

“Am thrilled to say I’ve finally had my phone consultation with the amazing Tanith! As you may know, I’ve been plucking up the courage to have a call from Tanith…anxious about feeling silly…well what a waste of worrying! She was a-mazing!!!! Really listened, took me seriously and obviously had a wealth of knowledge and experience! Nice to talk to someone who had empathy! She’s given me some starting points, whilst I wait for further hospital appointments! I actually feel, for the first time in ages, that I have a chance to take charge of my menopausal health…I know where to start….so any woman worrying about having a telephone chat with Tanith….there’s simply no need! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💗💗”


Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

I’m excited to say that I’ve finally pulled my finger out and put on another talk.

The talk is going to be relaxed, informal and informative. I’ll talk a bit about what the hell happens to the female body during the peri-menopause years (the exciting, eventful time before you have your final period!)

I’ll throw around some suggestions that you can use to prevent, reduce or even eliminate the negative symptoms.

We’ll even talk about the positive side to being a woman in our mid-life and how we can discover a new mindset.

During this time you can drink wine/coffee/eat nibbles etc. before we open up the room for discussion and a Q+A type thingy.

Anything goes….. it’s time to have a frank and honest discussion (talking is optional, you can just listen ;-))

Save the date

Date: Monday 15th October 2018

Time: 8-10pm

Venue: Cafe Rouge – Haywards Heath (in the upstairs function room)

33 The Broadway

Haywards Heath

RH16 3AS

Price: £15

How to book tickets:

Eventbrite Booking


How to nourish ourselves through menopause

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when we think about our ‘diet’.

When we are feeling awful, no energy and craving carbs sugar like its crack cocaine the last thing we want to hear is.

“You just need to give up sugar, caffeine, gluten, dairy, grains, breathing….”

This is the last thing we want to hear right?

Yes, nutrition makes a HUGE difference to our menopause symptoms and our health and wellbeing.

But most women will find big change hard and short lived.

I advocate adding nutrients into the body FIRST before removing anything.

This doesn’t work for everyone but it really helps many of my clients.

Give the body what it craves; a rainbow of veggies, organic meat, water, healthy fats like avocado and olive oil oh and a little dark chocolate 😉

Once your body starts to get the nutrients it craves then your cravings for junk/processed/sugary for will naturally reduce without you feeling deprived.

it’s much more intuitive and you stand much more chance of sticking with it.

Feeling good is addictive but it feels impossible when you are feeling pants!

Make small changes 🙂


The A-Z of menopause

The A-Z of menopause


Attitude – Having the right attitude towards this stage in life will help you get through it!

It is a big change …think of it as a positive stage in your life and try and keep your sense of humour 😉

Blood Sugar – Keep it balanced to help keep your mood balanced, reduce menopause symptoms, increase energy levels and reduce belly fat. If you have energy crashes in the afternoon this is a sign that your blood glucose levels may be ‘out of whack’. If this is you; eat regularly, avoid skipping meals, reduce sugar and refined carbohydrates, exercise regularly and keep hydrated.

Bone Density – Women lose 20% bone density going through menopause and 2% every year after that regardless of health/fitness levels.

Keep those bones strong to prevent osteoporosis. Get plenty of sunlight to ensure you are getting enough Vitamin D (you could get your levels checked by your GP). Eat green leafy veggies, pumpkin seeds, and almonds to get adequate magnesium. Vitamin K is important in bone health so eat green leafy veggies, fermented foods, cabbage and broccoli. Get moving and include weight bearing exercises (walking, running, resistance training, dancing etc.). Calcium doesn’t just come from dairy try other sources including dark green leafy vegetables, broccoli, tofu, almonds, black beans, and blackstrap molasses. (see osteoporosis below)

Carbohydrates – Get them mostly from vegetables and unrefined wholefoods. Avoid simple starch foods like bread, cakes, biscuits, crisps and many processed carbs. As we age we become less tolerant of ‘carbs’; they will increase our waistlines and deplete our energy.

Digestion – This can become sluggish as we get older so take a probiotic (or eat fermented foods), use digestive enzymes, keep hydrated and eat plenty of vegetables to keep everything moving. The first stage of digestion starts in your mouth so slow down your eating and chew well…..really well J

Exercise – Mix it up. Cardio, resistance, flexibility, sport, dance, stretch, wiggle, giggle, fast, slow…..just get moving! Not only will exercise lift your mood it will help balance your hormones, promote sleep, protect your heart health and help with weight issues. Resistance training will give you the fastest results for fat loss when we are menopausal. It will help increase muscle mass, build bone density,  increases your metabolism and can change your body shape.

Flush – Hot! One of the most common symptoms of menopause. Some suffer more than others. Eating a healthier diet which contains a rainbow of plant based goodness, protein sources and water will help.  Many women have found that reducing stress by practicing deep breathing, yoga and other relaxation methods reduce/eliminate their flushes. Know your triggers….caffeine, alcohol and sugar are common ones.

Growth – Hair! It seems the hair on our head thins out and feels drier and then we find bizarre hairs start to sprout in strange places. This is due to the imbalances in our hormones. Following all the tips so far will help keep your hair in great condition. A particular useful vitamin is Vitamin B5 – D-pantothenic acid – you find this in avocado, beans, eggs, green veggie, lentils, liver, mushrooms, sweet potato.

Hormones! Where do they go? What happens to them? During peri-menopause (the years before your last period) your hormone levels start to fluctuate and the ratio of estrogen:progesterone:testosterone change causing menopause symptoms. Making lifestyle tweaks (relaxation, exercise, nutrition, laughter, life-laundry…) will all help to balance your hormones.

Inflammation is a natural reaction to injury or infection. The problem comes when we have too much inflammation in the body. Inflammation can be caused by poor lifestyle choices (poor nutrition, smoking, drinking excessive alcohol, lack of exercise), infection, trauma, injury. This can lead to a number of disorders including; carpal tunnel syndrome, osteoarthritis, fibromyalgia, cardiovascular disease, autoimmune conditions, and the list can go on….

As well as anti-inflammatory lifestyle changes here are some ways to reduce inflammation; Omega 3 fatty acids, Vitamin B complex, Vitamin C (use a buffered form that is easier for the body to use), curcumin found in turmeric

Joints – Joint pain and stiffness is another common symptom. Omega 3 essential fatty acids (called essential as our bodies cannot produce them itself so we must eat them). They are found in oily fish, walnuts, hemp, free range/organic egg yolk, flax seed/oil, sea vegetables/algae, and grass fed meat. Also keep hydrated and keep moving; simple daily stretches can be hugely rewarding. (also see inflammation tips above)

Note: Ideally the ratio of omega 6 to omega 3 should ideally be between 4:1 and 2:1. In a typical western diet this ratio is usually much higher as we tend to over consume omega 6 ‘pro-inflammatory’ containing foods (vegetable oils used in cooking and processed foods).

Knowledge – Do your homework, talk to specialists, see your GP, research, talk to friends and find something that works for you. It may take time to discover your unique formula so breathe, roll with it, enjoy the self-discovery process and be patient.

Liver – Your liver uses a lot of the body’s energy as it is working hard to make the toxins we take in safe for the body. These can come from the environment and from the food we eat and the drinks we consume. The extra burden of of processed foods, alcohol, sugar, chemicals from beauty products and the environment will cause it to have to work harder. Liver support is vital during the menopause transition.

Eat a rainbow of fruit and vegetables daily (especially cruciferous vegetables; broccoli, cabbage, kale, watercress) keep hydrated to flush the body and keep everything moving.
Add essential fatty acids, daily movement/exercise, dry skin brushing to get the  lymph moving,  ensure you are eating plenty of fibre to make sure the bowels can eliminate toxins and hormones. Excess estrogen that is not eliminated through the bowels can be reabsorbed which can cause hormonal imbalances and menopause symptoms. Bitter foods stimulate the liver. Milk thistle is a classic herb that supports the liver.

Reduce the load on your liver by eliminating or reducing caffeine, alcohol, sugar, processed foods and environmental chemicals found in cosmetics, cleaning products and plastics.

emory – Sorry what was I saying? Memory loss and forgetfulness are frustratingly common symptoms of menopause. Research has shown that exercise and ‘brain games’ have shown to help improve memory. Also following the nutrition advice in this article will help your brain function.

Night Sweats – Another well-known symptom that can cause women to feel close to the edge. The constant interrupted sleep can have a detrimental effect on your wellbeing. Some women find the herbs black cohosh and sage can help with night sweats. Alcohol, sugar and caffeine are common night sweat triggers. Sleep in a cool, well ventilated room using natural bedding and night wear.

Osteoporosis – This needs an article by itself. Reduce fizzy drinks as the body uses your calcium stores to buffer the acidity, low stomach acid can mean you don’t absorb nutrients needed to grow bone density (antacids and PPI’s for indigestion reduce stomach acid), reduce caffeine as it can make you excrete calcium, get some sun and take supplements over the winter to ensure adequate vitamin D, reduce chronic stress to reduce your stress hormone levels, use your bones…..exercise signals to your body that we need them and will make them stronger. (see bones)

Phytoestrogens – These are plant based foods that have an oestrogen like effect on the body. Include legumes, flaxseeds, organic soybeans, nuts, wholegrains, apples, celery, parsley and sprouted seeds in your diet.

Relationships – If your moods are erratic this may have an effect on your relationships. This could be partner, children, parents or co-workers. Maybe you could have an honest talk to these people about what is going on.  It’s important to be heard and feel listened to.

Sex – Low libido is common in menopause but doesn’t affect all women. A mixture of out of balance hormones, feeling stressed out, tired, poor body image and lack of confidence all play a part. If you have an understanding partner explain what you are feeling and go back to basics of enjoying cuddles and kisses to keep the intimacy.
Use it or lose it…..sex, fore-play, genital massage and self-love are important as it keeps blood flow to the tissues of the genitals. An orgasm not only delivers a powerful dose of the ‘feel good hormones’ it also keeps your vulva and vagina lubricated, plump and healthy…… Remember a women’s libido starts in her mind so use your imagination as foreplay 😉 Don’t give up…. Many women find their libido comes back once they are post menopause. (see V for vagina)
Thyroid and menopause symptoms are similar (weight gain, low mood, lack of energy). It may be worth getting a full thyroid test carried out by your GP.

Understanding – Listen to your body and be gentle with yourself. Menopause symptoms are a way of your body telling you that it needs attention. Treat yourself with the kindness, patience and compassion you would treat a child. Menopause is the perfect time to put boundaries in place and  to say “me first’ and ‘no’.

Vagina – Another taboo subject! It’s rare for us to hear anyone discussing what happens ‘down there’. The menopause can cause changes to all your mucous membranes including your eyes, nose, digestive system and your vulva and vagina.
Dryness, soreness, irritability, thrush and thinning of the vaginal walls (atrophy) can be helped. Your doctor can prescribe Vagifem which contain small amounts of estrogen that can be inserted into the vagina. Use a natural lubricant of which there are many on the market. Some women find Sea buckthorn (Omega 7) supplements help.

Weight gain is a very common complaint. It is possible to lose weight but be prepared to be patient as what worked for you in your 30’s may not work for you now.

Following the tips in this article will all contribute to weight loss.
Remove processed foods, eat a rainbow of vegetables, keep hydrated, get moving and do everything you can to get your body back in balance.

Xenoestrogens – are a type of ‘xeno-hormone’ that imitates estrogen, this sounds good but they block ‘real’ estrogens from working. Synthetic xenoestrogens are widely used industrial compounds like plastic and other materials (over 80,000 different chemicals are used in manufacturing, consumer products and agriculture). To reduce your exposure eat organically where you can, don’t use plastic to store food and drinks, use organic cosmetics/make-up and use eco cleaning products.

Yoga – Bring out your inner zen. Yoga is a fantastic restorative exercise that brings calm and well-being. It can keep you supple, flexible and strong J There are many types of yoga, each bring different qualities so find a style you enjoy. If yoga isn’t your thing try other restorative type classes.

Z – zzzz Sleep….your body needs to build, regenerate and restore so get lots of sleep. The irony is that a very common menopause symptom is broken sleep. Only drink caffeine in the mornings (or stop it completely), use lavender on your pillow, try relaxing teas in the evening, try valerian supplement an hour before bed, ensure you are having enough magnesium in your diet (or supplement) and try guided relaxation before sleeping. If you suffer disturbed sleep, try and cat nap and/or rest when you can. The lower level of progesterone is often a common cause of insomnia in menopause. Using a natural progesterone cream helps some women and could be used as a temporary ‘fix’ while you allow the above methods to work..

Always get professional advice when taking herbal or nutritional supplements.


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Menopause Weight Gain – 10 Day video series

By far the most talked about ‘symptom’ of menopause and seemingly the most frustrating is the weight that many women seem to gain as they go through the menopause transition. Especially the belly fat.

I’ve created an email and video series covering this topic.

You can access those resources by clicking the green button below this video.

When you sign up you will have FREE access to this education series.

It will all be delivered to your email inbox daily for the next 10 days so you can read and watch the videos whenever they suit you.

Here is the first introduction video.


What is a hot flush/night sweat and what can you do about it?

What is a hot flush/night sweat and what can you do about it?

What is a hot flush?

One of the most common symptoms of the peri-menopause is night sweats and hot flushes.

“a sudden feeling of feverish heat, typically as a symptom of the menopause”


The Hypo what?

Although the root cause is not clear, research shows that they are to do with the hypothalamus which amongst other things regulates your body temperature.

During the menopause, oestrogen levels slowly drop. Although not fully understood, scientists think that this drop in oestrogen causes a hiccup in the way the hypothalamus senses body temperature, making it think that you are too hot.

This causes a response designed to cool down the body (your body is amazing and clever!) . More blood rishes to the skin (one of the causes of hot flushes and reddening of the skin) and sweat glands start working (the menopausal sweat).

Adrenal Glands

Another thing that can cause the dreaded night sweats (i remember them well!) is adrenal fatigue. Simply put this is when the adrenal glands have been worked to the point of exhaustion by prolonged chronic stress, illness or acute stress. In the worst case scenario the adrenals barely function. this = burnout 🙁

It’s also important to look after your adrenals glands as they continue to produce progesterone post menopause. During your fertile years your ovaries are the main source of oestrogen and progesterone. When your menstrual cycle ends the ovaries stop producing these hormones. Your adrenal glands continue to secrete a small amount of progesterone. However your adrenal glands prioritise your survival hormones (often called your flight, fight or freeze hormones) over producing your sex hormones . It’s mother nature looking after you. If you are under constant pressure/stress then the chances are you will be producing less progesterone.

“During adrenal fatigue your adrenal glands function, but not well enough to maintain optimal homeostasis because their output of regulatory hormones has been diminished – usually by over-stimulation. Over-stimulation of your adrenals can be caused either by a very intense single stress, or by chronic or repeated stresses that have a cumulative effect.” http://www.adrenalfatigue.org/

One of the key pillars in my menopause plan is to look at lifestyle, particulary stress. I also talk about it in more detail in the free hot flush help guide. When going through the peri menopause the body is hyper sensitive to stress due the the reduced estrogen and progesterone. This is also one of the causes of the shape change some women experience; hour glass to apple.

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Food Triggers

Many women find that certain foods can trigger a hot flush/nights sweats.

Avoid stimulants which are notorious for setting off hot flushes; things like coffee, alcohol, chocolate and spicy foods.  

An over use of convenient foods, processed food and sugars can all put an extra load on the body’s organs so reducing/eliminating these can make a huge improvement to your symptoms. Lay your health foundations by eating whole food diet that contains lots of leafy green vegetables and you will build a more robust system. It may sound basic but I know many clients that have reduced menopause symptoms just by changing their diet.

Is it your thyroid?

Many menopause and hypo/hyperthyroid symptoms are similar and it can be confusing to know which is which. Hypothyroidism and Hyperthyroidism can cause the body not regulate it’s temperature whether it’s too hot or too cold. This can be a cause of the hot flushes/night sweats and feeling cold and shivery.  Problems with the thyroid can come to light at the same age as women are going through the peri-menopause. So how do you know which is which? The first thing to do would be to see your Doctor and ask them to test you. Once you know which it is or maybe it’s both then you can make a plan of action.


10 Tips that may help reduce hot flushes

  1. Stress management – investigate the many stress reduction methods like; deep breathing, relaxation, walking, meditation, gentle exercise etc.
  2. Keep a Hot flush/sweat diary so you can see any patterns or triggers.
  3. When you feel one coming on….practice deep, slow breathing, it will take practice but this can work.
  4. Using Sage can help, make tea or take a good quality supplement.
  5. If you feel you need to then get your Thyroid checked by your Doctor.
  6. Eat foods containing phytoestrogens which mimic your body’s natural oestrogen but in much smaller doses.
  7. Ensure you wear natural materials and wear layers that are easily removed.
  8. Regular exercise can help many of the symptoms of menopause.
  9. Try bio-identical HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), your doctor can prescribe these.
  10. Use cool showers to lower your body temperature, this could be especially useful in the evening before bed.

Why not check out my free email course which will go into more detail about what you can do today to eliminate your hot flushes and night sweats. This course will give you a better understanding about what is going on with your body and what you can do to become a hot flush free zone. You’ll also get my ‘secret weapon’ against hot flushes that I only usually share with my VIP clients. Click below to get instant access.