It’s World Menopause Day and I want to be part of this conversation from a man’s perspective. Men need to understand this as much as women. Someone close to us – partner, colleague, friend, sibling etc will go through menopause which means we, as men, will also be part of this.
I share my personal experience with this as my partner is going through the peri-menopause and it has been a challenging experience for both of us. I also have numerous clients going through the menopause so I have exposure to the impact on women and their life/work.
Tanith Lee aka ‘Mrs Menopause’ joins me as a specialist to talk about menopause with a particular focus from a man’s perspective.
As a partner of someone, you might start to notice changes your their partner and feel the effects on you and your relationship. Can we change the description of a ‘symptom’ to a ‘signal’ of what’s going on – when you see these you can start to get interested in them.
Some highlights of our conversation.
Tanith says that peri-menopause > menopause shouldn’t be feared. If we can go into this with knowledge and compassion (rather than fear) then this is a good place to start. Stress will make the experience worse so that needs addressing.
I talk about the nervous system which needs to be understood. The stress response is either ‘fight’ mode or ‘flight’ mode. If you feel anger can it be expressed healthily without trying to avoid it or shutting it down? We discuss this in depth. Tanith explains the common narrative is to calm everything down BUT menopausal ‘rage’ but we discuss this and how you can take actions to process this rather than suppressing what you’re feeling.
★ How can we communicate better?
★ How can men deal with the difficult feelings that might come up such as rejection?
★ We discuss all of this and provide various options you can do.
★ And yes, we also discuss intimacy!
Finally, we cover the powerful impact of exercise. The relationship with your body needs to be nurtured. Tanith explains the issues to be aware of due to hormonal changes. How you feel is the ultimate payoff and if you can find ‘joy’ this is such a lift. I call these moments ‘Joy Lilly-Pads’ to hop from between the difficult times.
This year’s #WorldMenopauseDay2023 theme is cardiovascular disease. Fitness and activity are vital components in dealing with this health challenge.