Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Peri-menopause – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

I’m excited to say that I’ve finally pulled my finger out and put on another talk. The talk is going to be relaxed, informal and informative. I’ll talk a bit about what the hell happens to the female body during the peri-menopause years (the exciting, eventful time before you have your final period!) I’ll throw around some suggestions that you can use to prevent, reduce or even eliminate the negative symptoms. We’ll even talk about the positive side to being a woman in our mid-life and how we can discover a new mindset. During this time you can drink wine/coffee/eat nibbles etc. before we open up the room for discussion and a Q+A type thingy. Anything goes….. it’s time to have a frank and honest discussion (talking is optional, you can just listen ;-)) Save the date Date: Monday 15th October 2018 Time: 8-10pm Venue: Cafe Rouge – Haywards Heath (in the upstairs function room) 33 The Broadway Haywards Heath RH16 3AS Price: £15 How to book tickets: Eventbrite Booking...
What is menopause and midlife really about?

What is menopause and midlife really about?

Something happens around menopause and mid-life. A shift, a change in perspective, an awakening, a realisation…. Our mind, body, and spirit start to shout. We’ve ignored this voice for all these years. We’ve been too busy. Busy with growing family’s and/or careers.  Too busy doing ‘stuff’. Too busy to listen to that voice, the voice that whispers in the dark “is this it?” The childlike voice that screams in tantrum ‘it’s not fair, what about me?” We hit our late 40s and early 50s and we start hitting those bigger birthdays. As we dance through the decades faster and faster we can see the last curtain call is scarily closer than seems possible. Our mortality becomes more tangible. We begin to lose friends and family along the way as they transition to another place. Every loss makes us think “shit! I’m running out of time”. It reminds us of our fragility. But even the loss of a loved one isn’t enough to take action and to live life more fully. Sure the initial shock makes us listen, question and look briefly at our own existence. But as time marches on we slip back comfortably into our uncomfortable lives. It’s not that we have a bad life and sure, we’re grateful for what we have (are we?). But “what’s next?” our inner self-asks?   For me, the blessing of aging, maturing (?) and gaining life experience is that I don’t give so much of a shit (oh I still have doubts and wobbles). I care less what people think and I’ve come to realise what is important. I’ve learned to...

My second Menopause

I know, I know….one menopause is enough right? The last six months have been a massive struggle for me. It felt like my world came crashing down. Depression Anxiety Zero energy Apathetic Sluggish and lethargic On some days it was a struggle to get out of bed. I’d given up…..I quit! Life seemed bleak. I felt so lonely. I had brief glimpses of feeling better only to feel a day later like I was being sucked into a black hole. I didn’t want to speak to anyone, see my friends or connect with the others. Gah! But this felt familiar…..I knew these signs……I had felt like this and worse 8 years ago when I was going through an early menopause. I knew my hormones were talking to me! I also had other ‘stuff’ going on like my ongoing gut issues. I know my gut is fundamental to my overall wellbeing. I knew what I should be doing and what I would recommend to a client with the same gut stuff. But I the thought of planning and cooking meals was so overwhelming that I didn’t do it. It almost sounds ridiculous to write. Every decision felt too much. I was full of self-doubt and had lost any connection with myself and my intuition. I was so exhausted that I couldn’t exercise apart from walk the dog. And exercise always makes me feel better. I felt hopeless and lost. I was a walking bag of excuses…..I felt like I had failed. My inner dialogue as awful. Those mind monkeys weren’t just chattering they were screaming! I felt like I was losing my...

‘My Menopause’ – interview series with Katie Phillips

I was invited by my friend Katie Phillips from www.theschoolofself.love to join her in her ‘My Menopause’ interview series. You can watch my video below 🙂 In Katies own words……. “I just LOVE how the Universe guides me. Who knew that I would be called to host an expert interview series on Menopause! And it has blown me away how many experts want to be involved in this project. This information is SO NEEDED! It’s time to bring menopause into mainstream conversation! It’s time to acknowledge this life transition and get prepared for it to be an empowering, enriching and life enhancing rite of passage – because it CAN be and having spoken to many experts now, I believe it’s meant to be. So, if you are determined to transform any conditioning that tells you your menopause means you are over the hill, un-sexy, at the end of your life and that you will suffer terribly…..I invite you to get informed and discover how you can make your experience of menopause (because you WILL go through it) the best it can be for you. I am a 43 year old woman in Peri-Menopause and I am creating this interview series so that I may learn how to prepare for and positively experience the next few years. I am committed to making this a graceful and life affirming experience that will help me to more deeply know and love myself. ” Will you join me? You can get access to the interviews...

A case study: Menopause, hormones and gut health

I have a new client, she is 46, had a premature menopause age 37 and she is struggling with low mood, low energy and feels she has lost her ‘oomph’ for live. When her POI (premature Ovarian Insufficiency) was confirmed she went onto HRT which really helped for a while. She spent a few years finding the right HRT type and dose. Last year (October 2017) age 45 she decided to stop the HRT and see how her body reacted. At first she felt ok but over the last few months her energy has dropped and poor mental health symptoms have returned. Is there link to gut health, menopause and hormonal imbalance? At the same time she is dealing with long term pain and feels like she regularly has sore muscles and tendons.  On top of this she has had ongoing ‘gut issues’. About five years ago she had acute stomach pains and bloating and no one could give her a definitive answer what was going on. She has had digestive issues ever since. The pain has lessened but she gets extreme bloating and discomfort. This means she has to wear lycra most of the time to accommodate her expanding waistline. This and weight gain has had a negative impact on her self image and confidence. Even though this client is feeling really crap (technical term!) she is resisting going back on HRT. She feels this may mask her gut problems and she wants to heal her gut so she has a better understanding of how her gut health is affecting her mental health. She has seen a herbalist...

BBC5 Live Menopause show

Last week I was invited to go to the BBC5 Live studio in Manchester to join a discussion about menopause. Yesterday I jumped on a train excited to be given another opportunity to share my message about menopause and the positive and negative impact it can have on a women. Meg Matthews (Meg’s Menopause) was the guest editor and the show was brilliantly hosted by the lovely  Nihal Arthanayake (who is now very educated about the menopause ;-)) The First hour was a discussion with Dr Louise Newson and Diane Danzebrink (http://menopausesupport.co.uk) with Professor Helen Stokes – Lampard, (pictured left) Chair of the Royal College of General Practitioners. The second hour was with Dr Newman, Meg, myself, Bridget (WI), Jayne Harrison (Menopause cafe) and Ola Fagbohun (menopause cafe). This was a more relaxed, on the sofa, setting where we discussed the menopause and how it affects women. We heard some sad (yet typical) stories about how women are suffering. One women told us how she had been suffering for 20 years, this was heart breaking and unnecessary). A few men contacted the show to say thank you for discussing it on the radio as they didn’t know how to help their wives. I had so much more I wanted to say on the show!  Dr Newman and Meg are very pro HRT but they were fairly dismissive of supplements and alternative therapies. I am also pro HRT as it saved my life but not all women can or want to use it. I felt it a little biased but then maybe i was just a bit sensitive to womans needs. There...

How to nourish ourselves through menopause

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when we think about our ‘diet’. When we are feeling awful, no energy and craving carbs sugar like its crack cocaine the last thing we want to hear is. “You just need to give up sugar, caffeine, gluten, dairy, grains, breathing….” This is the last thing we want to hear right? Yes, nutrition makes a HUGE difference to our menopause symptoms and our health and wellbeing. But most women will find big change hard and short lived. I advocate adding nutrients into the body FIRST before removing anything. This doesn’t work for everyone but it really helps many of my clients. Give the body what it craves; a rainbow of veggies, organic meat, water, healthy fats like avocado and olive oil oh and a little dark chocolate 😉 Once your body starts to get the nutrients it craves then your cravings for junk/processed/sugary for will naturally reduce without you feeling deprived. it’s much more intuitive and you stand much more chance of sticking with it. Feeling good is addictive but it feels impossible when you are feeling pants! Make small changes 🙂...

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A message from Tanith
Founder, Mrs Menopause
Your forties are a time of change, I’m sure I read once that’s when the fun starts. The body changes and you cannot stop it. I want to help you accept it and embrace it…..cellulite, flabby bits and all!

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